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Kevin

Plague House

posted on Thursday, May 29, 2008 by Kevin in [Daisy, Henry, Insight]

last night we had a visit from the fourth illness to befall our house in two weeks (three colds previously) Daisy and then Henry got a stomach bug, which meant we had quite a few changes of clothes and bedding.

Daisy was sick at around 7:30 and then on and off until 1:10am; i know this time, because this is exactly when Henry started to be sick. I put daisy back in bed and said “I have to go see Henry” and at that point she was OK. Henry was then sick everywhere (i.e. all over me). and was out of bed twice last one around 3-ish.

Ruth says I thrive in these situations and while they are very tiring I think she’s right. I feel like a good dad when I’m running around picking them (and the things they’ve left behind) up from around the house. It also adds to my parenting badges. poo everywhere – check; Alder Hey at 1am – check; covered in sick – check. It just all goes down as things I will never be thanked for – so in later life i can call them ungrateful :)

Ruth

Expectations

posted on Saturday, May 24, 2008 by Ruth in [Daisy]

Daisy: (sobbing at the tea-table because I said she had to stay at the table until everyone had finished eating) You’re supposed to talk when I’m crying! You’re supposed to say “You’re terribly tired, aren’t you?”!

Ruth

In case anyone was lying awake worrying…

posted on Tuesday, May 20, 2008 by Ruth in [Daisy, Henry, Insight, Piccies]

… Kev’s more or less better, now. I think his throat’s still a bit scratchy, but he’s back at work, and managing not to collapse in a heap of patheticness at the end of the day, which is a bonus.

HiddenActually, considering it’s May, there still seems to be quite a lot in the way of coughs and colds flying around. Both of my kids have a slightly chesty-sounding cough, which isn’t debilitating them, but is slowing them down a little. And given that the first time Daisy got croup, we’d never heard of anyone having it, outside of Ann of Green Gables, the number of croupy babies and children in our church is starting to become ridiculous. We’re considering starting a support group. Well, not really, but it does seem a bit odd. We have six babies under a year old, and three of them are susceptible to it, which seems a bit high.

HiddenCoughs and colds aside, Daisy and Henry are doing nicely. Henry is trying to talk more, which is lovely. He’ll make attempts at Daddy, Mummy, Daisy and Cat, and he’s signing a little too – bed and drink, particularly. He’s only ten months, so he’s not doing any of it reliably, but you can see he’s starting to get the idea, which is lovely.

Daisy has very few problems communicating. I can remember when she was Henry’s age, being quite excited, and a little impatient, for the day when she could tell me what was in her head. Now, when I have to try and seriously consider questions like, “Mummy, what do you think if me and you and Daddy and Grandmum and Henry were hung on the washing line?” I’m wondering if I was happier when I didn’t know.

HiddenDaisy’s quite a sensitive little flower, in lots of ways. She worries about things. She’s recently joined Tumble Tots, but has so far refused to tolerate me waiting in the other room for her. The thing is, a different mother would put their foot down, but I really can’t see the point. There is no merit, to me, in forcing her to a level of independence that she doesn’t want. When she’s ready, she’ll do it, and in the mean time, I can wait in the corner of the room. She’s only three. It’s not as if I’m planning to make her go to school by herself!

At least one of my friends has been heard to marvel at how I cope with having Daisy all day, every day, when everyone else’s kids are in playgroup or nursery for part of the time. I don’t really see it as coping – I cope with Daisy because I HAVE Daisy. I love her, and even when that doesn’t seem to help me LIKE her very much (and you all have those days, don’t pretend you don’t), I still want her where she feels safe and secure, and capable of behaving like a little madam if she needs to!

HiddenAs it happens, my whole relationship with Daisy has improved markedly, since I realised that I was chronically dehydrated. Not acutely, but chronically, in the sense of not drinking nearly enough, for days and weeks on end. Kevin brought me a glass of cordial with my tea, one night, and I looked at it, and thought, “That’s my first drink today.” And really, that’s not good enough. No coffee, no cold drinks, nothing since I poured milk on my cornflakes at 8am. So I started making a concerted effort to drink more, and almost immediately, I found I was less tired, sluggish, bad-tempered, and overwhelmed by everything. I could get things done! And I didn’t spend my whole day snapping at my poor, innocent three-year-old.

I knew water was important, and I knew I didn’t drink enough, but I was astonished at the difference it made. I thought I just WAS that person. It’s quite a relief to discover that I’m not!

Kevin

I’m ill

posted on Friday, May 16, 2008 by Kevin in [Insight]

Ruth thinks I might have mumps*, I think it could be tonsillitis, but it’s more likely that i’ve just got a sore throat. One thing for sure I’ve not been this i’ll for a very long time – 12th January 2000 – I missed the First leg of the Bolton v Tranmere cup semi-final. Ruth made me not go; It was one of her first acts of looking after. 

I’ve been off work since around 11am on tuesday, when I conceded that I am a fool and going into work was the silliest thing I could have done – it then took most of tuesday and maybe a bit of wednesday to recover from the journey to work and back. At that time my throat wasn’t supper sore, but i was feverish, week and achy.

by thursday the achyness and shiveryness where starting to lessen, but now my throat has kicked off good style into being really sore so eating anything is quite hard. Today is the day you know you don’t feel to bad, but if you where to do anything strenuous (like go to work) you would just collapse again. 

I must be getting better because the clear blue skies I have been looking out the window at have gone. Ruth said i could be ill in the garden, but i really don’t think you’re allowed to be ill outside, I felt a bit of a fraud on wednesday when i went to Tesco, and that was to buy medicine.  

* I’ve just read the symptoms of mumps and there are one or two areas of pain I think I would notice i had it.Â