it’s a resonably well know fact among people who know me – but when we got married I took Ruth’s name and became a Jump.
It wasn’t until about 3 years later that I realised that as a Man you don’t actually have the legal remit to change your name when you get married. the marrige law doesn’t actually say anything about changing your name (even if you are a woman). although i do remember stumbling on something that said a woman took a mans name not the other way around.
When I found this out I scrabbled around the Internet to find out if I had made myself a fugitive from the law, it turns out I didn’t because you can call your self what ever you want, just many places don’t let you change things without documentation.and while the deed poll site now says that from 2005 the passport office accept marrige certificates for the change of a man’s name, I can tell you they where doing that in 2003.
Getting it changed
Changing your name on things held by companies is suprisingly easy, at first my bank said they needed the marrige certificate, but then when i turned up with it, told me that was wrong and changed my name on all my accounts without looking at it.
Work wanted to look at something – don’t know why but they did, like they didn’t trust one of their own employees got married.
the passport office just accepted the birth certificate and marriage certificate without question
Dealing with it
Since then I’ve had no trouble, the few CRB checks I’ve had haven’t had any problem with me filling out ‘maiden name’ fields. my doctor got confused when she looked at the screen on the computer they other day, but didn’t say anything.
In reality, most people don’t even know, it’s only if i mention it do i get strange looks, and if people know me at all, they just add it on to the list of oddioisities that are the jumps, with their baby-wearing, home educating, bread in the microwave lifestyles.
I like been a Jump, it gives me a better sense of me because it’s a bit quirky, less common, and well it’s been my name for ages now, so it’s me.